The Art Of Saying "No"!
Most people are not where they want to be in life because they don’t know the art of saying “no”.
Whether it is setting boundaries, people pleasing, or not being able to say “no” to friends… not having the discipline to turn things down can be your undoing.
In this video I talk about specific examples of how I’ve been able to say “no” to some of my closest friends and family, why saying “no” is an art and difficult to do, and specific examples of me saying “no” that totally transformed my life.
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[00:00:00] Hey, what’s going on, guys? Ravi Abuvala here, check this out. I’m on my balcony here in Cabo San Lucas at this villa that I’m running with some of my friends, look at this view out here, pretty insane. I wanna talk to you guys really quickly, about the power is saying no. So it’s pretty interesting. This is gonna be a little bit different then some of the other videos of shot you guys, but I hear this all the time. First of all, can you just see this view right here? I hear this all the time, you know, about people saying, oh, you know, I can’t be what you’re doing. I can’t do what you’re doing. I can’t run a business because my mom, my dad, my cousin’s sick. My mom sick, you know the economy. I don’t have my stimulus check. You know, my employees, whatever it is, my kids, my parents, what are the million reasons why they can’t do something? And in reality, what the biggest issue that these people have is they aren’t able to say no.
[00:00:49] And the ability to say no, I would argue, is probably the most valuable trait that you can have as really just anybody in 2020. OK. Because what’s happening right now is you’re having an entire country, United States or really the entire world, go into a recession. OK. And when that’s happening, everyone’s coming out and asking for things, right? People are asking the government for money. Dads are asking their kids for money. Kids are asking their parents for money. Employers are asking their employees to work for more hours or for less work or whatever it is. And the issue that everyone that I see just says, yes, yes, yes, yes. Right now, at the same time, you’re hearing getting hit from ads from everywhere of people saying, oh, this business opportunity, this business opportunity, Shopify Consulting, SMMA whatever it is, this is the next secret. This is the thing you need to do. And the problem that most people do is they just say yes to everything.
[00:01:36] If you’re doing it, stop it. They try it about a million different things out and it actually gets even harder. The more successful you get, right, when you get make more money and you have more success than you have people that you really love coming, you asking you for money. You have people that you care about coming up, asking you for business ideas or loans or investments and these opportunities. And you have to be really, really disciplined and saying no. And it’s something that took me a while to do, but I probably say no to my employees. I say no to my COO, anytime he wants to try a new software. I say no to my sales team leaders wherever they want to try you know, a new lead generation method I know is not gonna work. I say no to family members whenever they ask for money. I say no to clients whenever they ask for certain custom work, whatever it is. And does it piss people off as sure as hell does. I promise you, you’re gonna piss people off. You need to relax.
[00:02:25] You have to take care of yourself so you can take care of others, just like they talk about whatever the mask drops down below you whenever you’re on a plane, take care of yourself before you take care of the person sitting next to you. Right. And that’s realistically what it is actually like. That’s what success is like. And so for me, I had to say no to law school. I had to say no to relations with the people I cared about in the beginning, my entrepreneurship journey. I had say no to friends. I had to say no to girls. I had to say no to dating because it was all distractions and it was all short term gains instead of long term positioning. OK. And now everything I do is on a five to 10 year scale. I’m looking at how is this going to affect me or how what’s it gonna do for me and the next five to ten years? And I challenge you guys to do the exact same thing.
[00:03:03] So just a quick little video to let you guys know. Look, saying no is so much harder than saying yes. People say, oh, you need to say yes more. Absolutely not. I would say no. You say no. Ninety nine percent of the time you say yes to the small percentage of things that actually and move the needle forward for you. And it’s gonna be hard to say no to me really hard. I recommend you practicing it. Right. If someone, the waiter comes to you and brings you food that you didn’t order or food that’s cold or food that’s overcooked or undercooked, you need to say, no, this is not what I ordered and you hand it back. Okay. It is a skill set and is something you need to learn how to adapt and do. And if you’re able to do that, you’re gonna be able to help so many more people, I promise you, the most successful in the world. They said no. OK. So hopefuly this was valuable for you guys. Sorry, our little car coming in here right now. But just want to give you a little bit information. If you guys like some more mindset videos like this. Make sure you give me a thumbs up. You like this video you could subscribe to on the notification bell and comment down below my friends. OK. Thank you guys so much for your time and enjoy the rest of the day. Don’t forget say no.